A person expressed surprise that her close friends tended to distance themselves from her, wondering whether the cause could be sorcery, noting that she was quick-tempered and hypersensitive.
As is well known, people very often cannot tolerate an angry temperament. We would therefore advise first seeking to correct oneself before thinking of any sorcery of estrangement or otherwise. And in the hadith of al-Bukhari, the Prophet ﷺ repeated the advice: "Do not become angry"
Truly, anger is a source of problems, whether in health or in relationships—it is a doorway to evil. The scholars say about anger: "Its beginning is madness and its end is regret."
And in the hadith, the Prophet ﷺ said upon seeing an angry man: "I know a phrase which, if he says it, what he feels will leave: a'udhu bi-llahi mina-sh-shaytani-r-rajim" [al-Bukhari 3282 & Muslim 2610]
Indeed, one can also make use of calming herbal teas and natural sedatives such as valerian, verbena, or linden.
The professor reminds us that anger is "a gateway to harm," both for one's health and for one's relationships. Medical research confirms this at the level of the body; the primary remedy remains the one taught by the Prophet ﷺ: the words of refuge in Allah. Beyond the words of refuge cited in the hadith, the Sunnah offers concrete means that the professor details in his teaching on the Prophet's ﷺ 7 pieces of advice against anger: This advice aligns with what modern anger management approaches recommend: interrupt the rise before it overflows, and change the body's state to change the inner state. A linden or verbena herbal tea (10 minutes of infusion); valerian is reserved for pronounced sleep disorders and is taken in a short course. Sufficient sleep, regular physical activity, and less sugar — fatigue and low blood sugar make one irritable. As the professor says: before looking for an external cause, working on one's character is the most correct and most effective approach — and it is also what brings loved ones back. Valerian can increase the effect of sleeping pills and sedatives; do not combine it with these treatments without medical advice. If your anger comes with a hypersensitivity that causes you suffering, repeated conflicts, or a feeling of losing control, psychological support that stays true to your values can truly help — this is what the Sagesse au Naturel practice offers. Learn the words of refuge and the prophetic actions by heart, and apply them from the very first signs; support the body through sleep, diet, and a calming herbal tea in the evening. If bouts of anger remain frequent or intense despite this, seek support — that is a sign of wisdom, not weakness. The professor answers clearly: in the vast majority of cases, the cause is one's own character, and that is where the work must begin. Legislated ruqyah remains a legitimate means, but it does not replace the work on oneself. "A'udhu bi-llahi mina-sh-shaytani-r-rajim" (I seek refuge in Allah from Satan the accursed), as taught in the hadith reported by al-Bukhari and Muslim. Linden and verbena for daily calming, as an herbal tea; valerian rather for falling asleep, used occasionally. The professor refers to them as "natural sedatives" to be used in support of the work on oneself. Often: hypersensitivity makes one feel things more intensely, and anger is sometimes the way that overflow comes out. Learning to recognize one's emotions before they overflow is at the heart of psychological support. Acknowledging the wrong, sincerely asking for forgiveness, and showing over time that one is changing: this is what the Sunnah teaches and what loved ones expect. Visible change brings people back more surely than explanations do.What the science says about anger
Anger harms the heart
The calming plants mentioned
Prophetic remedies for anger
Prophetic advice The action Why it also works for the body Seek refuge in Allah Say "a'udhu bi-llahi mina-sh-shaytani-r-rajim" Interrupts the rise of anger, re-centers Stay silent Don't speak in the heat of anger Avoids words that can't be undone Change position Sit down if standing, lie down if sitting Changing the body's state changes the inner state Perform ablutions Water soothes the "fire" of anger Cool water and the ritual calm the nervous system Step away Leave the situation until you calm down The peak of anger subsides within minutes Remember the reward Of the one who holds back their anger Gives meaning to the effort In practice
In the evening
Day to day
On oneself first
Contraindications and precautions
Our recommendation
Frequently asked questions
Can anger really come from sorcery?
What exactly should be said when anger rises?
Linden, verbena, or valerian: which one to choose?
Is being hypersensitive linked to being quick-tempered?
How can I repair relationships damaged by my anger?
